We Can't Be Friends

" I went by mothers, saw your car there. To her still family and it don't seem fair..."

How many of you have been in relationship where you and your mate co-mingled? I'm talking movie nights with friends, family functions, and major holidays. You spent so much time together if you weren't around, your family reached out to the other because they knew you were either together or not too far apart. You were cool with the family and knew for sure they loved you like one of their own. You vowed that regardless of what happened in your relationship you would always stay in touch because the relationship you formed with them just wasn't based on your relationship with your ex. Isn't that easier said than done for both parties? As the ex, do you really feel comfortable staying in touch with his family? Aren't you afraid that maybe you just want to get in on what your ex has been up to? Or maybe their questions are just to give your ex the scoop on you? At what point are you being disrespectful to their new life or relationship? And what about your ex? How can they move on from you when their family is still in love with you? Most people value the opinion of their family and as long as you're continuing the relationship with them you will remain in their lives. Are they comfortable with that? Do they really want you to remain in the backgrounds reminding them of what once was? What if the break up was your idea? Shouldn't you give up your temporarily family pass or are you that selfish to think that the trials you've endured in that relationship gives you permanent access to the one thing that is rightfully theirs? So many questions come into play with this situation. Reality is, we all make promises of what we would do once the relationship ends. But when it happens, whether the break up was mutual or one-sided, can you make good on all the promises you made when it's finally reality and not just a hypothetical scenario?

Ode to Keri....

sometimes love can just be so crazy. it can be just like a SLOW DANCE, so smooth and intricate making you feel like you could do it forever. and other times it can make you feel so ALIENATED, like you're the only one putting forth any effort. but sometimes things can change, ya know? if we just take the time to put in a little more ENERGY, things can really turn around. but if you're the only one giving and your partner can't RETURN THE FAVOR what difference does it really make? sometimes you just feel like giving up because it doesn't seem worth it. but then you reflect on the times when you would MAKE LOVE...lying there wondering what they're thinking, silently thanking him cause he knows just how to keep TURNIN ME ON. but secretly you have that INTUITION, something just isn't right. you're spending more time by yourself wondering what's really going on and why he seems so distant. WHERE DID HE GO?  maybe you should just tell him how you feel, TELL HIM THE TRUTH and let him know you can't go through this anymore. tell him there is no need to try and CHANGE ME because you knew what this was from the start. love just isn't supposed to feel like this. it just isn't supposed to KNOCK YOU DOWN and  leave you out for the count. but then again maybe you just love too hard. HOW DOES IT FEEL to be alone now?  i bet you won't even give it a second thought and realize i'm gone now. but it's cool. i thought i deserved you but now i know i deserve better. so im gone now...off to live IN A PERFECT WORLD